Is There an Age Limit for a Prom Date? – Should there be?

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Are you wondering if your date is going to be too old for prom?

Its true that a number of schools are now imposing certain restrictions on prom night.

These restrictions can range from the type of dress you are wearing to age limits for your prom date.

For most prom-goers however, prom night is about the wardrobe, make-up, taking photos and corsages and boutonnieres.

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Unfortunately the checklist of things a girl will need in order to be admitted to prom has now expanded to include the age of their prom date.

In the past, schools were pretty lenient over who your prom date could be but this has recently changed due to an increase of problematic prom nights.

For most schools nowadays your prom date cannot be over 21 years of age.

Are the schools justified in setting a prom age limit?

You’re probably thinking that you should be allowed to bring whomever you want to prom.

Your date should be someone you are comfortable with regardless of the age.

But, if you really think about it the school administration may have good reasons for imposing this age limit.

To begin with, these restrictions are often set to prevent the students from engaging in risky behavior.

A person who is over 21 years of age has the ability to purchase alcohol which can be introduced to the dance and has been known to result in disruption of the evening.

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So, really the school’s administration has your best interest at heart when they limit the prom going age to under 21.

What else is wrong with an older prom date?

Aside from the legal and administrative reasons why an older prom date may be restricted, it may not be prudent to have a prom date who is significantly older than you.

First of all, they may not feel at home at your prom night for the simple reason that they don’t go to your school or it was a very long time since they had a taste of the high school experience.

Depending on how old they are, they may be unable to be comfortable enough to enjoy themselves which means that you will not enjoy yourself either.

An older date may also want to leave early.

They probably want to go to an after prom party that will be more age-appropriate for them.

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It may be fun to say that your prom date is older but considering all of the disadvantages that can result from taking an older date to prom, it is probably better if you stay age appropriate and go for someone you have a lot in common with.

If you are a high school student, you will be more comfortable around high school students.

Prom is about high school and the high school experience. Anyone older will not be able to fit in and may even spoil the occasion for you.

Your Parents may not approve

Under normal circumstances your parents may not approve an older date to the prom.

For similar reasons to those given by schools and the state, parents may be opposed to older persons being allowed to attend prom night.

Therefore, if you bring an older date to prom, assuming that the school doesn’t have an age limit restriction or you found a way to flout the rules, you might be doing so without your parents’ consent.

Schools can foresee problems that could arise from this situation. That’s why they have this strict rule that prom-goers must be of a certain age.

For example if your older date has a tendency to get up to no good, they could persuade you to engage in less than appropriate behavior!

Because they are at an age where they are allowed to purchase alcohol, you may find that alcohol becomes a prominent part of your prom night and you really don’t need to be told the dangers of drinking and driving among other problems that alcohol can give rise to.

If your boyfriend is over 21 and they are a perfectly good person and you have a perfectly good relationship, let them know why they cannot go to prom with you and either go by yourself and meet them later, or go with a friend.

Are you planning to attend prom with date that is 21 or older?

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  1. jenny blonk

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