How to Say No to a Prom Promposal Without Coming Across as a Bitch

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As much as you love to have a date for any dance, there are times when the person who asks isn’t the one you want.

This can be an awkward situation because on the one hand you don’t want to go out with them and at the same time you don’t want to hurt them with an outright no.

It takes a lot of courage for a guy to stand in front of you and ask you to a dance, especially if you haven’t been dating.

In respect to this courageous move, girls need to develop creative ways to turn down a homecoming proposal without being a bitch about it.

It also pays to keep in mind that you will probably have to see the boy at school after the event and the inevitable meetings could become very awkward and testy.

There are a number of ways to let a guy down easy. Most of them have been in use for a long time and they still work.

We are going to be looking at a few of them here and under what circumstances you should make use of them.

Say “No” but promise them a little something

The easiest way to be nice when saying “no” to someone is to do it while offering them something else in return.

How do you do this when turning a guy down for homecoming? Tell them that you don’t think you will be going to homecoming at all. That covers the no and doesn’t make you sound like a bitch.

Then offer them something in case you do decide to go. The most common way to that girls do this is by offering them the chance to take a picture with you at the dance.

So you could say something like, “I don’t think I will be going. But if I do go, we could take a picture together.” This is one simple way to guarantee you will remain friends even after the awkward proposal.

Say it is a girl’s night out

You could also use what is known as the group excuse and tell him that you and your girls decided to make it a girl’s night out.

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In this excuse it will also be very helpful if you could offer him a little something for his trouble. You could tell him that you will save him a dance and remember to keep the conversation light.

Thank him for his interest and ensure that he knows you are very flattered that he asked and then let him down very gently.

Boys value their egos so be sure not to insult his even if he isn’t your ideal date. Also keep your word and dance with him when he asks.

Go with the truth

Sometimes honesty is the best policy. This is true especially if it is a guy you really respect and want to remain friends with. Guys really take asking you out very seriously and failing to let them down easy could result in a lot of heartbreak for him.

The only way to avoid this may be to tell him the truth, without being bitchy about it of course.

Start by telling him that you are very honored and flattered that he asked you. Then tell him the major reason why you cannot be his date. If there is another guy you want to go with, tell him that you plan on asking this other guy out.

Chances are that you will not only have let him down easy and avoided an awkward situation but you will also have gained his respect and admiration.

Help him find a date

If you already have other plans for your ball, dance, prom or homecoming, it would really lessen the sting on your “No” if you would offer to help him find a date.

You might be very surprised when he actually takes you up on that offer. This will strengthen your friendship or build a new one if you didn’t have one. You could also ask him and his date to join you and your date at after homecoming activities.

You could turn a guy down without having to resort to your mean side. As the above suggestions show, there is little chance of you hurting someone if you employ a little bit of tact and strategy in how you say no.

You could even make a friend out of the proposal.

If you had to turn a guy down what would you say?

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